Rewilding by Design: How Midlife Women Reclaim Their Energy, Power, and Purpose
What Rewilding Really Means (and Why It Matters in Midlife)
If you’re like me, somewhere along the way, you stopped asking what you actually wanted. Not because you weren't capable of choosing for yourself, but because the noise got louder than your knowing. You became the version of yourself that made the most sense to the world around you. You took on the roles of the reliable one, the strong one, or the one who didn't rock the boat. And for a while, it worked….Until it didn't.
Because even if life looks fine on paper, you can't ignore that quiet feeling. The one that says there's something more.
Maybe it shows up in the morning when you're pouring coffee and realize you can't remember the last time you did something just because you wanted to. Maybe it's the way you catch yourself mid-sentence, performing enthusiasm for something you stopped caring about years ago. Maybe it's even simpler than that…a heaviness in your chest when you think about next week, next month, next year looking exactly like this one.
So many women I work with are in this same boat. They’re ust... done. Done pretending, done shrinking, and done living at a frequency that doesn't match who they actually are.
Rewilding is what happens when you finally start listening to it.
It's the process of coming back to the version of you that existed before the world told you who to be. Before you learned to monitor your tone. Before you started second-guessing your instincts. And before you traded your natural instincts for someone else's rulebook.
In this post, we'll look at what Rewilding actually is, why it matters in midlife, and how Human Design and the Gene Keys can help you remember who you are underneath all the roles you've been carrying.
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What Is Rewilding, Really? (And What It's Not)
The traditional definition of rewilding is all about getting back to nature. And how I see this translate for women, especially in midlife, is that we’re returning to OUR personal nature. So no, rewildng isn't about throwing your whole life away and running barefoot into the forest. It’s the time where you finally remember the parts of you that got left behind.
Rewilding is a process of unlearning. Letting go of the masks, rules, and expectations that shaped who you thought you had to be, so you can reconnect with your soul’s full expression.
For women in midlife, this often comes as a wake-up call. You've spent decades being what everyone else needed. Now you're wondering who you are when you're not performing that role.
The Masks We Wear
We all wear masks. Most of us have been wearing them so long we've forgotten we put them on in the first place.
There's the "I've got it all together" mask you wear at work, even when you're barely holding on. The "I'm fine" mask you default to when someone asks how you are. The "cool mom" mask. The "low-maintenance partner" mask. The "I don't need help" mask.
Some of these masks were survival mechanisms. Some were shortcuts to belonging. Some you inherited from your mother, who inherited them from hers, and so on.
But what happens over time? The mask starts to feel like your face. You stop noticing when you put it on. You forget what you actually look like underneath. And eventually, the thought of taking it off feels scarier than keeping it on because what if there's nothing there? What if you've been performing for so long that you don't even know who "you" is anymore?
Rewilding asks you to take the mask off anyway. Not all at once and not in some grand, dramatic gesture. Instead this is a slow and intentional process.
What Rewilding Looks Like in Practice
Rewilding doesn't require you to quit your job, leave your marriage, or move to a cabin in the woods (though if that's genuinely what you want, by all means do it).
Most of the time, rewilding looks a lot more ordinary than that:
It looks like saying no to a commitment you would've automatically said yes to a year ago.
It looks like leaving a conversation that drains you instead of forcing yourself to stay and be polite.
It looks like choosing the thing that feels nourishing over the thing that looks impressive.
It looks like admitting you don't actually like something you've been pretending to enjoy for years.
It looks like letting yourself rest without earning it first.
These might sound like small shifts. They are. But they're also the steps that can finally shake loose the years of conditioning. Because every time you choose yourself (even in the smallest way) you're dismantling years of conditioning that taught you your needs come last.
What Rewilding Is Not
Let’s clear the air with this. Rewilding is not selfish, it’s not reckless, and it's not about abandoning responsibility or burning your life to the ground.
You're taking your life back.
Rewilding doesn't mean you suddenly stop caring about the people you love or the commitments you've made. But it does mean you stop abandoning yourself to accommodate everyone else.
Assertive and advocating for your desires is not difficult or combative. It means you stop making yourself smaller to make other people more comfortable. Lastly, rewilding doesn't mean you're starting over from scratch. This is remembering.
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Why Rewilding Becomes Non-Negotiable in Midlife
Midlife tends to pull the curtain back. What used to be enough (success, relationships, routines) starts to feel strangely disconnected. You've built a life that works… but not one that feels like yours. This is a turning point, not a breakdown.
I’ll preface this section with the disclaimer that I’m not a medical professional, so everything here is my own personal reflections and experience. Take this information with a grain of salt and consult your own physician or mental health provider if you have specific health questions.
The Biology of Midlife Awakening
There's a reason midlife feels like a reckoning. Your body is literally changing the rules. Perimenopause and menopause don't just affect your hormones. They affect your tolerance for bullshit.
Estrogen, which has been buffering your stress response and keeping you accommodating for decades, starts to decline. And when it does, your nervous system stops letting you override your needs the way it used to.
Suddenly, the things you used to be able to tolerate: the overpacked schedule, the one-sided relationships, the job that doesn't fit, feel unbearable.
This isn't you becoming "difficult." This is your body withdrawing its support for a life that's been running you into the ground.
Your brain is changing too. The prefrontal cortex, which has been helping you manage everyone else's emotions and anticipate their needs, starts to care a little less about external validation. You stop asking "What will they think?" and start asking "What do I actually want?"
This isn't a crisis. It's a biological invitation to come home to yourself.
The Psychological Shift
Midlife also brings a shift in perspective that's hard to ignore. You start doing the math. If you're lucky, you've got 30, maybe 40 years left. And you realize with a clarity that's both terrifying and liberating that you don't want to spend them the way you've been spending them.
You've checked the boxes. You've done what you were supposed to do. And now you're standing in the life you built, wondering why it doesn't feel the way you thought it would.
This is when the questions start coming:
Who am I when I'm not being who everyone needs me to be?
What do I actually want, separate from what I think I should want?
What would my life look like if I stopped trying to prove my worth?
These aren't easy questions, but they sure are the right ones.
A Second Season of Life
The cultural narrative around midlife for women is that it's something to just get through. Something to manage or just tough out. A phase where you're losing something like your youth, relevance, visibility.
But that narrative is ass backwards. Midlife isn't about losing anything. It's about finally gaining the clarity, the courage, and the lack of patience for pretending that makes transformation possible.
You're finally waking up. And once you do, you can't go back to sleep. This is where tools like Human Design and the Gene Keys become powerful, not as labels, but as mirrors.
The Four Phases of Rewilding
Through years of client work, personal experimentation, and deep study, I've come to see rewilding as a cyclical process with four phases. You won't move through them in a neat, linear way. You'll circle back. You'll revisit the same phase at different depths. And that's exactly how it's supposed to work.
1. Deconditioning
This is the uncomfortable but necessary step of noticing where you've been living out of habit, obligation, or fear of rocking the boat. It's the unraveling.
Deconditioning starts with awareness. You begin to see the places where you've been living on autopilot: saying yes when you mean no, making yourself small in rooms where you have every right to take up space, over-explaining your choices to people who don't need an explanation.
At first, this awareness is subtle. You catch yourself mid-apology for something you didn't do wrong. You notice the way your body tenses when certain people text you. Or you realize you've been making decisions based on what you think you should do, not what you actually want to do.
Then the awareness gets louder. You start seeing patterns everywhere. The way you've been performing gratitude for things you don't actually appreciate. The way you've been tolerating behavior that crosses your boundaries. Or the way you've been managing other people's emotions at the expense of your own.
And again, once you see it, you can't unsee it.
What Deconditioning Feels Like
Deconditioning can feel destabilizing. Because if you're not the person you've been pretending to be, who are you?
You might feel angry. At yourself, for staying small for so long. At the people around you, for benefiting from your smallness. At the systems and stories that taught you this was the only way to be safe, loved, or worthy.
You might feel grief. For the time you lost. For the version of you that got buried. For the life you could've had if you'd known sooner that you were allowed to choose differently.
You might feel scared. Because changing means risking the security you've built, even if that security came at the cost of your authenticity.
All of these feelings are valid. All of them are part of the process. This process is all about awareness, because awareness changes everything.
The Practice of Deconditioning
Deconditioning requires you to slow down enough to notice. You can't dismantle patterns you're not aware of. So the first step is simply to pay attention.
Notice when you're saying yes but your body is saying no.
Notice when you're shrinking to make someone else comfortable.
Notice when you're performing a version of yourself that doesn't feel true.
And then, instead of judging yourself for it, get curious. Where did you learn this? What were you trying to protect by doing it? Is it still serving you? Most of the time, the answer is no. But awareness alone is enough to start loosening the grip.
2. Reconnecting
Once you begin to strip away the noise, you start to hear your own voice again. This phase is about re-establishing your relationship with your intuition, your energy, your body, and your values. You remember how to trust yourself again.
Listening to Your Body Again
One of the first casualties of conditioning is your connection to your body.
You learned to override your body's signals. To push through fatigue. To ignore hunger. To smile when you wanted to scream. To stay when every cell in your body wanted to leave.
Reconnecting means learning to listen again.
Your body has been trying to tell you things for years. That tension in your shoulders. The knot of anxiety in your stomach. The exhaustion that sleep doesn't ever seem to fix. Or the way certain people or situations make your chest feel tight.
This is all crucial information. Reconnecting asks you to stop dismissing that information and start trusting it.
Reclaiming Your Intuition
Somewhere along the way, you stopped trusting your gut. Maybe someone told you that you were too sensitive, too emotional, too much. Maybe you made a decision that didn't work out, and you decided you couldn't trust yourself anymore. Maybe you just got so good at anticipating what everyone else needed that you forgot how to tune into what you needed.
Reconnecting means giving yourself permission to trust your knowing again. Not the loud, anxious (and annoying) voice in your head that sounds like your mother or your ex or that critical teacher from seventh grade.
Instead it’s the quiet one underneath. The one that just knows. It's the voice that says "something feels off here" before you can articulate why. The one that says "this person is safe" or "this opportunity isn't for me" without needing proof.
You've always had access to that voice. You just stopped listening.
Finding Your Values Again
When you're living in survival mode or people-pleasing mode, your values get buried under everyone else's expectations. You adopt values that aren't yours. You prioritize things because they look good on paper, not because they actually matter to you.
Reconnecting means asking yourself: What do I actually care about?
Not what you think you should care about. Not what your family cares about or what looks good on Instagram. What actually lights you up? What makes you feel alive? What would you defend, even if it made you unpopular?
These are your true values. And living in alignment with them is what makes life feel like yours again.
Where Human Design and Gene Keys Come In
This is where Human Design and the Gene Keys come in, not as answers, but as tools to help you hear what's already been there.
Human Design shows you the mechanics of your energy. It helps you understand why you've been burning out, why certain decisions feel wrong, why you keep hitting the same walls.
The Gene Keys show you the frequency you're operating at and the higher frequency that's available to you when you stop forcing yourself to be something you're not.
We'll dive deeper into both of these tools in the sections ahead.
3. Reclaiming
Now that you're hearing yourself clearly, this is where you begin living from that place. You say no when you mean it. You take up space without apology. You choose what nourishes you, even if it doesn't make sense to anyone else.
This phase is bold, messy, and often deeply confronting…but it's also where life starts to feel like yours again.
The First "No"
The first time you say no without over-explaining, it will feel like jumping off a cliff. Your nervous system will scream at you. Your conditioning will tell you that you're being selfish, difficult, unreasonable. But say it anyway.
And then something incredible happens: nothing.
The world doesn't end. The people who truly respect you adjust. And the ones who don't? They may self-elect out, and that’s a beautiful thing!
That first "no" is the beginning of reclaiming your life.
Taking Up Space
For most of your life, you've probably been making yourself smaller. Laughing at jokes that aren't funny. Softening your opinions so they don't threaten anyone. Apologizing for existing in rooms where you have every right to be.
Reclaiming means you stop doing that. You let yourself be seen. You share your real thoughts. You stop dimming your light to make other people comfortable.
This doesn't mean you become aggressive or unkind. It means you stop shrinking. And when you stop shrinking, you give other people permission to do the same.
Choosing Differently
Reclaiming means you start making choices based on what's true for you, not what's expected of you.
You leave the party early because you're tired, not because you have an excuse.
You spend money on the thing that brings you joy, even if it's not practical.
You say what you mean instead of what you think people want to hear.
You rest without earning it.
You prioritize your energy over your productivity.
These choices might feel radical at first. But they're not. They're just honest.
The Pushback
When you start reclaiming your life, the people around you might push back. Not because they don't love you, but because your shift disrupts the dynamic they've gotten comfortable with.
When you stop over-functioning, the people who've been under-functioning have to step up. When you stop absorbing everyone's emotions, they have to learn to regulate their own. When you stop saying yes to everything, they have to respect your boundaries or leave.
This is uncomfortable. But it's also necessary. The people who truly care about you will adjust. They might struggle at first, but they'll meet you where you are. And the people who can't? They were never going to support your growth anyway.
4. Rebirthing
This isn't a one-time event. It's a slow and sacred unfolding. Rebirthing means becoming the version of you that isn't shaped by old patterns or projections. You're not being someone new, you’re coming home to who you've always been.
What Rebirthing Actually Means
Rebirthing doesn't mean you suddenly become a whole different person entirely. You're not abandoning the parts of you that are part of the core of your identity. Instead, you're shedding the parts that were never yours to begin with: the performance, the mask, and the version of you that was built to keep you safe in a world that didn't feel safe.
You don't need that shit anymore. Rebirthing is the process of letting yourself be seen as you actually are…messy, evolving, imperfect, real.
It's letting go of the need to have it all figured out and it's trusting that who you are right now is enough.
The Slow Unfolding
Rebirthing doesn't happen overnight. It's not a single moment. It's a thousand small moments where you choose yourself over the conditioning.
It's the morning you wake up and realize you haven't abandoned yourself in weeks. It's the conversation where you speak your truth without apologizing. It's the day you look in the mirror and recognize the person looking back.
It's slow for a reason, because it's sacred.
Living as Your Actual Self
When you're in the rebirthing phase, life starts to feel different. Now I’m not saying it’s going to be perfect or easy. But it will start to feel like you. You stop second-guessing every decision, you stop performing for approval, and you stop betraying yourself to keep the peace.
You show up as you are. And the right people, opportunities, and experiences start showing up too. Because when you're living as your true self, you're no longer energetically available for things that aren't aligned.
You're not forcing anything anymore, nor are you chasing. You're just being. And that's the whole point of life, right?
Each of these phases will show up in their own time. You might circle through them again and again. It’s a spiral that meets you wherever you are.
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How Human Design Supports the Rewilding Process
Human Design isn’t another box to shove yourself in. It's a mechanical system that helps you understand the mechanics of your energy so you can stop working against yourself. Want to learn more about Human Design? Be sure to read this article for a deeper dive into Human Design basics.
For midlife women rewilding their lives, Human Design becomes a compass. It shows you how your energy is designed to move. It helps you understand:
Why certain relationships feel draining
Why traditional productivity advice has never worked for you
Why burnout keeps showing up even when you're doing everything "right"
Remember, we’re burning the rulebook around here. Human Design is simply a reminder of what's always been true underneath the conditioning.
Your Type: The Foundation of Your Energy
In Human Design, your Type describes the way your energy is designed to interact with the world. There are five Types: Manifestor, Generator, Manifesting Generator, Projector, and Reflector. Each Type has a different energetic signature, a different way of making decisions, and a different Strategy for moving through life.
Most of us were never taught to honor our Type. We were taught to all operate the same way: push, hustle, force, and make it happen. But when you're working against your Type, everything feels harder than it should.
Generators and Manifesting Generators
If you're a Generator or Manifesting Generator, you have sustainable life force energy, but only for the things that light you up. You're designed to respond to life, not to force or initiate. This means waiting for something to show up that you can say "yes" to, rather than pushing yourself to make things happen out of thin air.
For most Generators, this goes against everything you've been taught. You've been told to be proactive, to go after what you want, to make your own opportunities. But when you do that, you burn out. Because you're designed to respond, not to initiate.
Rewilding as a Generator means giving yourself permission to wait. To trust that the right things will show up when you're energetically available for them. It means saying no to the things that feel like obligation and yes to the things that make your body light up.
Projectors
If you're a Projector, you have variable access to sustainable energy (undefined sacral center). You're designed to guide, manage, and see systems clearly, but only when you're invited and recognized.
Most Projectors spend their lives exhausted because they've been trying to keep up with Generators. You've been told that rest is laziness, that you need to work harder, that if you're not producing you're not valuable. But that's not correct for you.
Rewilding as a Projector means accepting that your energy works differently. It means resting without guilt. It means waiting for invitations instead of forcing your way into spaces that don't recognize your value. And it means trusting that when you're in the right place with the right people, your energy will flow effortlessly.
Manifestors
If you're a Manifestor, you're designed to initiate, to act, and to make things happen without waiting for permission. But most Manifestors have been conditioned to ask for permission, to explain themselves, to soften their impact so they don't make other people uncomfortable.
Rewilding as a Manifestor means reclaiming your right to move without asking first. It means informing the people who will be affected by your decisions, not to get their approval, but to keep them in the loop. And it means trusting your urges and acting on them, even when they don't make sense to anyone else.
Reflectors
If you're a Reflector, you're designed to sample and reflect the energy around you. You're deeply sensitive to your environment, and you need more time than anyone else to make decisions.
Most Reflectors have been conditioned to move at the pace of everyone else, to make quick decisions, to have a consistent sense of self. But that's not how you work.
Rewilding as a Reflector means giving yourself permission to take your time. To wait a full lunar cycle before making big decisions. And to honor your sensitivity instead of trying to toughen up. Most, importantly, it means surrounding yourself with people and places that feel good because your wellbeing depends on it.
Your Strategy: How Your Energy is Designed to Operate
Each Type has a Strategy. This is a way of moving through life that minimizes resistance and maximizes flow:
Generators and Manifesting Generators are designed to respond
Projectors are designed to wait for invitations
Manifestors are designed to inform before they act
Reflectors are designed to wait a lunar cycle before making big decisions
When you follow your Strategy, life gets easier. Not because your problems magically disappear, but because you're finally working with your energy instead of against it.
Your Authority: How You Make Decisions
Your Authority is your internal decision-making process. It's how you know what's right for you:
Some people are designed to make decisions with their gut (Sacral Authority)
Some with their emotions over time (Emotional Authority)
Some with their intuition in the moment (Splenic Authority)
Some with their heart and willpower (Ego Authority)
Some with their voice and environment (Self-Projected or Environmental Authority)
Some with the moon cycle (Lunar Authority)
Most of us were never taught to trust our Authority. We were taught to make decisions with our minds—to weigh the pros and cons, to think it through, to be logical and rational.
But your mind isn't designed to make decisions for you, it’s designed to process information and communicate. When you try to make decisions with your mind, you second-guess yourself. You overthink. You talk yourself out of what you know is right.
Rewilding means learning to trust your Authority again. To make decisions from your body, not your head. Inside your chart, you'll find your natural way of making decisions, using your voice, responding to pressure, and moving through the world.
If you're new to Human Design, the best place to start is with your Type, Strategy, and Authority and that's exactly what I break down in the Decode Your Design guide. This is a full, comprehensive digital analysis of your human design chart.
The Gene Keys and the Frequency of Rewilding
While Human Design helps you understand your energy mechanics, the Gene Keys help you work with your frequency. Each Gene Key represents an archetypal energy that exists within you. You'll see the shadow expression, the potential gifts, and the highest essence of that energy.
As I mentioned earlier, this work isn't about fixing yourself. Instead, you're recognizing the patterns you've inherited or absorbed and choosing to move through them with more softness and awareness. For a more detailed breakdown of the Gene Keys, check out this post here.
Understanding Shadow, Gift, and Siddhi
Every Gene Key has three frequencies:
The Shadow is the low-frequency expression of that energy. It's where most of us live most of the time—not because there's anything wrong with us, but because we're conditioned into it. Shadows aren't bad. They're just unconscious patterns that keep us stuck.
The Gift is the potential that becomes available when you start to work with the shadow consciously. It's the higher frequency of that same energy. Gifts aren't something you achieve. They're something you relax into when you stop fighting yourself.
The Siddhi is the highest expression of that energy. It's rare, fleeting, and often arrives in moments of grace when you're not trying to force anything. You can't chase the Siddhi. You can only create the conditions for it to emerge.
How the Gene Keys Work in Practice
The Gene Keys are something to live, not something you effort your way through. I suggest starting by identifying one Gene Key to work with, usually from your Activation Sequence, Life's Work, or Venus Sequence. Then you sit with it. You contemplate it. You notice where that energy shows up in your life. If you want to learn more about the Gene Keys, read this article.
For example: Gene Key 7 moves from Division (shadow) to Guidance (gift) to Virtue (siddhi).
If Gene Key 7 is active in your chart, you might notice a pattern of feeling divided: split between what you want and what you think you should want. Split between who you are and who you're pretending to be.
As you work with this energy, you start to see where that division comes from. Maybe it's rooted in childhood messages about who you were supposed to be. Maybe it's reinforced by relationships where you've had to hide parts of yourself.
As you become more conscious of the pattern, the gift starts to emerge. You begin to trust your own guidance instead of looking outside yourself for answers. You become a source of direction for yourself and others—not because you have all the answers, but because you're willing to trust what you know.
And in rare moments, you might touch the siddhi: Virtue. A state where there's no division at all. Where you're completely aligned with who you are. You can't force that. But you can create space for it by doing the shadow work.
Working With Your Gene Keys
The beauty of the Gene Keys is that they meet you where you are. You don't have to be "healed" or "whole" or "enlightened" to work with them. You just have to be willing to look at your patterns with honesty and compassion.
Start with one Gene Key. Maybe it's the one in your Life's Work sphere. Maybe it's the one that shows up in your Purpose or your Vocation. Read about the shadow. Notice where it's present in your life. Don't judge it, just see it. Then read about the gift. Notice where that higher frequency is already trying to emerge. What would it feel like to let it?
You don't have to do anything. Just contemplate. Just notice. That's the practice.
Gene Keys and Midlife Rewilding
The Gene Keys are especially powerful in midlife because this is when we're ready to stop performing and start living. We've spent decades in the shadow: over-giving, over-achieving, people-pleasing, abandoning ourselves to fit in.
Midlife is when we finally have the clarity and the courage to look at those patterns and choose differently. The Gene Keys give us a language for that transformation. They show us that the shadow isn't something to fix or eliminate. Instead, it's something to work with, to understand, to move through.
And when we do, the gift is waiting on the other side. For example:
A Gene Key in your Purpose sphere might highlight where you've over-given or over-achieved to earn love
A Gene Key in your Vocation sphere might help you take back a part of your expression that's been silenced
The magic isn’t in memorization, and the Gene Keys show us this is about a more embodied way of living. That's where the frequency work begins.
Want to learn more about the Gene Keys? Read this blog post.
Rewilding Isn't Linear And That's the Whole Point
One of the biggest misconceptions about healing, growth, and rewilding is that there's some finish line. But you're not trying to become the "best" version of yourself. You're learning how to live as the most honest version of yourself.
That's why you'll revisit the same patterns. That's why some days will feel spacious and powerful and others will frankly feel like a hot mess. This is your permission slip that you're not doing anything wrong.
The Myth of Linear Progress
We've been conditioned to believe that growth looks like a straight line. You identify the problem, you fix it, and you move on. You level up and you never, ever backslide.
But that's not how transformation works. Real transformation is cyclical. You circle back to the same lessons at different depths. You revisit the same wounds with more awareness. You face the same fears with more capacity.
This is how you integrate. You don't heal something once and never deal with it again. You peel back layers. You go deeper. You meet yourself again and again at different stages of readiness.
What the Messy Middle Looks Like
The messy middle is where most people give up. Because it doesn't look like progress, it looks like chaos.
You're saying no more often, but now people are upset with you
You're trusting your intuition, but now your decisions don't make sense to anyone else
You're setting boundaries, but now relationships are shifting and some are ending
You're choosing yourself, but now you feel guilty and selfish
This is the messy middle. And it's supposed to feel this way because you're dismantling the old structure before the new one has fully formed. You're living in the in-between, the void. And the void is deeply uncomfortable. But discomfort is where the real work happens.
Normalizing the Backslide
There will be days when you backslide. Days when you say yes when you mean no. Days when you shrink to keep the peace. Days when you abandon yourself because it feels easier than holding your ground.
Please don’t take this as a sign that you're failing. It just means you're human. Rewilding isn't about becoming perfect. It's about becoming aware and remembering. And awareness means you notice when you're backsliding. You notice and you choose differently next time. That's the practice.
Trusting the Process
Rewilding asks you to trust that the discomfort means something is shifting. It asks you to trust that the unraveling is making space for something new. It asks you to trust that you're not falling apart because you're coming back together in a way that actually fits. And most of all, it asks you to keep showing up. To keep choosing yourself even when it feels easier not to. To live in integrity with who you are, not just who you've been told to be.
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Real-Life Signs You're Already Rewilding
You don't have to be in the woods howling at the moon to be rewilding. It's often more subtle and more powerful than that. Here are some signs you're already rewilding:
You're Saying "No" More Often
Maybe it's still uncomfortable. Maybe you still feel guilty. But you're doing the damn thing anyway. You're declining invitations that don't feel aligned. You're stepping back from commitments that drain you. You're letting go of obligations that were never yours to carry. Each "no" is an act of reclamation.
You're Questioning Roles You Used to Accept
You're starting to see the roles you've been playing: the good daughter, the accommodating partner, the selfless mother, the reliable friend, and you're asking: Is this who I actually am? Or is this who I learned to be? You're not rejecting these roles entirely. You're just examining them. And in some cases, you're choosing to rewrite the script.
You Crave Quiet Time Over Constant Doing
You used to fill every spare moment with productivity. Now you're craving space. Space to think, to feel and space to just be without an agenda. This isn't laziness because this is simply your nervous system finally feeling safe enough to rest.
You're Drawn to Reconnect With Your Body
Maybe you're moving differently: dancing, walking, stretching, breathing. Maybe you're paying attention to what your body is telling you: the tension, the fatigue, the hunger, the pleasure. Or maybe you're learning to trust your body's signals instead of overriding them. This is rewilding. Coming back to the body you've been living in but not listening to.
You Notice When Something Drains You…And You Do Something About It
You used to push through the discomfort. You used to convince yourself it was fine, that you were fine, that this was just how life was. Now you're noticing. And more than that, you're acting on what you notice.
You're leaving the conversation that feels off. You're ending the phone call when your energy dips. You're unfollowing the accounts that make you feel bad about yourself. These seem like small things, but they're not. They're radical acts of self-preservation.
You Feel a Pull Toward Something You Can't Name
There's something stirring inside you. You can't quite articulate it yet, but you know it's there. It's not a specific goal or a clear vision. It's more like a frequency or a knowing that there's more available to you if you're willing to reach for it.
You might not know what that "more" looks like yet. But you can feel it calling. That's your soul waking up.
You're Less Interested in Approval
You used to monitor how people were responding to you, constantly adjusting, softening, performing to get the reaction you wanted. Now? You care less. Not because you've become cold or indifferent, but because you're finally more interested in being real than being liked. You'd rather be honest and lose some people than perform and lose yourself.
You're Willing to Disappoint People
This is a big one. For years, disappointing people felt like the worst possible outcome. You'd bend over backwards, abandon your needs, betray yourself all to avoid letting someone down.
Now you're starting to see that disappointing people is sometimes necessary. Sometimes it’s the kindest thing you can do, for them and for you. This is honesty, not cruelty. And if that disappoints someone, that's information about them, not a verdict on you.
You're Starting to Trust Yourself Again
This doesn't mean you have all the answers and it doesn't mean you never doubt yourself. It means when your gut says something is off, you listen. When your body says you need to rest, you rest. When your intuition says "not this," you trust it, even if you can't explain why. You're remembering that you've always known.
Conclusion: Rewilding Is a Return, Not a Reinvention
You don't need a five-step plan to ‘fix’ yourself. What you need is space to come home to who you've always been. Rewilding isn't something you check off a list. Rewilding is a way of living. Of choosing presence over productivity. Of remembering that your worth was never tied to how productive, agreeable, or accommodating you were.
What Happens When You Stop Abandoning Yourself
When you stop abandoning yourself, everything shifts. Not all at once. Not in some dramatic, movie-worthy transformation, because that would be far too much for nervous system. Instead, slowly and steadily, you start to feel like yourself again.
You wake up in the morning and the weight on your chest is lighter. You make decisions without spiraling into anxiety. You show up in relationships as yourself (not as the version of you that you think people need). You stop performing, you stop proving, and you stop contorting yourself to fit into spaces that were never meant for you.
And in that space, something new emerges. Not a new you. The real you. The one that was always there, waiting for you to come back.
The Invitation
This is your invitation to stop waiting for permission. To stop waiting until you're ready, until you have more time, or until the conditions are perfect. The conditions will never be perfect and you'll never feel completely ready.
But you can start now, right where you are, and with whatever capacity you have. You can start noticing. You can start questioning. You can start choosing yourself in the smallest ways. And those small choices will compound. They'll build on each other. They'll create quiet momentum. Until one day you look around and realize you're living a life that actually feels like yours.
Walking This Path Together
Rewilding can feel lonely. Especially in the beginning, when the people around you haven't caught up to who you're becoming. But you're not alone in this. There are women all over the world who are waking up to this same call. Who are choosing themselves and who are remembering who they are underneath all the conditioning.
And there are tools like Human Design and the Gene Keys that can help you navigate this process with more ease and less resistance. You don't have to figure this out on your own.
Your Next Step
If you're ready to stop abandoning yourself to make everyone else comfortable, start here: grab your free Human Design chart and Energy Snapshot. Or if you’re ready to go deeper into your Human Design and Gene Keys, order the Decode Your Design guide.
You've followed the rules long enough. Now it's time to come home to yourself.
