Episode 09: Breaking the Cycles of Overthinking
Why Overthinking Feels Unbearable in Midlife
Overthinking isn’t about having an “active mind.” It’s the conditioning so many of us grew up with: being taught to be polite, responsible, careful, and always seeking approval. By midlife, those habits don’t just feel heavy. They feel unbearable.
This episode explores how women get stuck in spirals of overthinking and what it takes to step out of the loop.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode
What overthinking actually looks like day-to-day
Why “good girl” conditioning feeds the spiral
The energy, emotional, and relationship costs of staying stuck in loops
Why the mind isn’t the enemy - it just needs the right role
Simple practices to interrupt spiraling and come back to your body
The Cost of Staying in Loops
Overthinking comes with a price:
Energy: waking up already tired because your brain never stopped.
Emotions: more anxiety, resentment, and disconnection from joy.
Relationships: being so in your head that you miss the present moment.
Purpose: endless planning and second-guessing instead of doing what you want.
Midlife makes the cost even clearer, because your body no longer has the reserves to carry what it once did.
How to Step Out of Spiraling
Breaking the cycle doesn’t happen by thinking harder. It happens by shifting your energy:
Ground into your body with breath and presence.
Move your body. Stretch, walk, shake, or dance to break the loop.
Write it down to empty your head.
Try EFT tapping to calm your system.
Limit input. That means less scrolling, less noise, less comparison.
Ask better questions: “What would feel supportive right now?” instead of “What if it all goes wrong?”
Resources + Links
🎧 Grab your free Energy Snapshot audio to hear how your Human Design type naturally uses energy.
📖 Go deeper with the Decode Your Design digital reading, a personalized breakdown of your full human design chart.
🔥 Or if you’re the woman who’s ready to stop putting her desires on the back burner and finally make those bold moves that have been on your heart, check out The Frequency Mastermind.
💌 Connect with me on Instagram or TikTok and tell me where you notice your biggest drains.
About the Rewild by Design Podcast
Rewild by Design is a podcast for women in midlife who want to stop performing and start remembering who the hell they are. Hosted by Marissa Gordon, it blends Human Design, Gene Keys, and grounded conversations about the midlife awakening.
